Being "mean" is terrible advice.

I used to have terrible social anxiety, but after I got divorced I really wanted to get out of the house, get my mind off things (I had quite a breakdown), have fun, and meet women. I went on a dating website and wrote to people expressing interest in whatever the most interesting thing on their profile was, asked for a date after a few messages, and then acted as polite as I could on the date. I was honest about my divorce and mental health issues, but always said it with a calm smile, and a few hopeful comments implying that I had hope for the future and was taking care of myself. I expressed interest in what they had to say and tried to be good company. A very large percentage of them ended up falling for me, and eventually I found my current fiancé.

I believe that the thing that made so many fall for me, is that I believed that it was important to be true to myself while also ensuring they had a good time, and acted as such. And also, I never rushed anyone or got needy, because at that time I wasn't yet ready to fall in love. The more you need love, the harder it is to find.

There is a book about "players" called "the game." It is the true story of some guys who become professional pick-up artists and teach seminars on picking up women. It ends badly for them, as they did not also invest time learning how to have healthy long term relationships, but it offers a lot of good advice about getting women to fall for you. Just skip the part about "negging" (small put-downs to make a women seek your approval) and substitute the kind of healthy, supportive statements you use on here. I've read some of your posts, and you know how to do that.

I hope that helps. When you really want a relationship, it can be SO HARD to play it cool, but remember, "playing it cool" is not a game, but rather a way of insuring you don't make the woman feel pressured or uncomfortable.

Also: always shower, brush your teeth, and wear deodorant.

Full disclosure: I am a lesbian, not a man. But this has also worked for my straight male friends.