Let me elaborate. I don't want to Make it happen tomorrow or in the next five minutes or at all. But here's the problem I have. I ended up more than once with women that didn't end up clicking with me because, well, I've always done nothing. i don't do well with women unless they come to me in the sense they pretty much do everything but actually ask me out. But it always ends badly becuase they simply are not the type that I can stay with because, well... they leave. >.> NOT WHINING. I'm just re-evalutating how I am perceived because I'd rather be more active so that when I AM ready or find that one that I really like, that I won't miss my chance. Which I am sure I have many times already with others... Idk if I'm making sense but I'm not trying to be a different person, I really want to emphasize this. I just mean being more controlled about my emotions... which I think would be a good thing. but I understand and thank you all for your perspectives and honesty. It does help.