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alexandra_k said:
how the hell do you turn the attachment system OFF do you think???

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I have no idea, but that thought scares me sometimes. Because I am so attached, and therapy doesn't last forever. I'm not there yet, but how will I handle termination? Aaaaackkk!

I enjoyed your thoughts on the "self," alexandra. My self is a collection of ego states. "An ego state may be defined as an organized system of behavior and experience whose elements are bound together by some common principle." I had a dream about them once--a room crowded with "Me's", all of different ages and organized around different themes. Many were shadowy figures, and some more differentiated (less integrated) and at the fore, with the here and now "me" ("the executive") organizing them and keeping them all together. To know I can do that gave me a real boost. We've worked with two of my ego states in therapy. They come forward when there is a reason. One little girl had been lost to me for decades and now I see her and she is a part of me again. Therapy can be an amazing journey.