Yes, first I dreamed that my dad wasn't really dead, that it was all a big mistake. Then I would have feelings of it not being real, that he was still here and would appear any moment.

I think this is where some people get the idea that it takes a year to grieve. Actually it takes as long as it takes. But what I mean is that when you get through the first Christmas or other major holiday, the first birthday, the first anniversary of his death, it seems to sink in better and feel more real. I think that's what grief is.. the moving from disbelief to belief. It takes as long as it takes and it is different for each person.

You will feel better Samm. Time will help you. You won't forget him; you'll stay connected to him with memories. Missing him will help you think of him because you will have memories to think about and cherish.

Your sadness will ease Samm, and you'll feel better.

ECHOES