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I think it is harmful for a T to recommend, nudge, encourage, or make a victim feel guilty for not reporting. This is a trauma. reporting too early can increase the trauma.
I agree you need to protect yourself, and not your abusers. I don't agree that that means immediately outing them as abusers. It may at some point mean saying or doing something that will out them, but protects you. For example, a survivor may refuse to go to a family dinner where the abuser is presnet. The intent is to protect themselves. If people pressure the survivor so that she tells the truth why she issn't coming, she is doing it to protect herself, not her abuser. Protecting yourself doesn't mean you out your abuser. And it doesn't mean you don't out your abuser. It means you do what you need to do to heal, without regard to them. At some point, that MAY mean outing them to protect others. But it takes a while to get there, if ever.
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