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What brought this up was the fact that I told him I could not trust him; he reacted very defensively and pointed out that I was in no position to tell him that he could not be trusted because he was seeing me at a discounted rate (I had switched employers and lost my insurance in the process; our session was the very first and only not covered by insurance so he charged me less). His exact words were, "I'm seeing you at about one third or one quarter of the rate so I don't think you are in the position of telling me that I'm not to be trusted."
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My reaction when reading this was omg followed by anger. I can't believe he said that. Trust has got to be a foundation. If (for example) your spouse violates your trust it is probably worth it to try and resolve it but this is somebody without a vested interest in your life other than a paycheck. He basically SAID that. I spent a wasted year in a group where I didn't trust the T. He kept making it about me and I believed it. He also got defensive about things and not just with me. I started seeing a great individual T who could give me feedback and it became clear it wasn't all about me. There was a last meeting with both of them where I told him a few things and I got information that reinforced it even further. Even my T could see it. Without her I could have wasted another year or more thinking I could "fix" my trust issue with him.
Please don't waste your time with this jerk. It really isn't worth it. You may actually be lucky he was so blatant about it.