Fuzzy,
I know you've probably looked into this, but there are several breeds of dogs that do not have dander, and therefore are usually ok for people with allergies. When I was young, I had a friend who was severely asthmatic and had terrible allergies., but they had a miniature schanuzer that she was fine with.
Honey, I feel so bad that you have been made to think your problems are trivial. Just because something isn't life-threatening does mean it's trivial. And things that interfere with your daily life add up, so even if it might be trivial to deal with it once or twice, living with it every day can be quite a burden. No one should diminish what you are going through, just because they can't understand how difficult it is for you.
*bear hugs*
Love ya!

Jo
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