Hi,

I can feel for you. I am in a similar situation and my 17 year old son will not speak to me. Not one word for over 4 months.

I left a marriage of 20 years. My x was verbally and emotionally abusing me for year and years. Until one day I had a panic attack that lasted for hours and hours and I couldn't breathe right for almost a month. I never went home again. My teenage sons refused to leave their home and come with me.

My best friend was a male who helped me through those first few months. I am now divorced and we are together, (but I will never marry again). My x spun tales of me throughout the town, to my kids, and to my family.

I lost a lot from verbal abuse. I do not care about the community, or friends, or my home.

Missing my sons is killing me. I pray they come around soon.

I do agree that we are the adults and that it is time for us to take care of ourself. Who knows what is right for us? We do. No one has walked in our shoes and no one has felt what we felt.