What a relief that your friend has found out she is in the clear

I can understand what you're saying, jen. It is tough to jump around or even fake a smile sometimes. You're in one of those very difficult times now. Have you been working with a T throughout this process? I was just wondering... I remember before your brother passed away....You were really struggling at that time with your depression. Anyway, I just wonder if you have worked through a lot of the thoughts and emotions that that came along with his death? Not that I am some sort of expert. (Not at all!) I hope that you have been working with a T regularly, and that they have helped you gain some ground as time has passed.

Over the years, I have learned that we all have different ways of coping with the death of someone that we love. And I wouldn't say that there is "right way". We can make the intense pain of our loss(es) last longer by avoiding accepting reality. That's the one solid piece that I now know.

You may have read this article, but in case you haven't, here's the link:
On Grief, Loss and Coping | Psych Central Maybe there will be some helpful ideas for you, in some way.

My very best wishes to you, jen. I'm thinking good thoughts for you.