After reading about the relationships people have with their alters and discussing things with both my therapist and a friend, I've come to the decision that I'm going to try and talk to my alter. I don't know much about him, and I don't know why he's hurting me, but there must be a reason why he resents me and I want to know why. Someone I've been talking to pointed out that he might be angry because he's male and trapped in a female body, and I think that's right since he has said creepy sexist things before. I really want to make things better with him and be able to know more about him so I can try and persuade him to stop doing this.

The problem is that he's really unpredictable and angry. It's hard to tell when he's going to start talking in my head or switch and when he does, all he really says to me is how I'm worthless and he hates me. He's also said creepy things about death. Does anyone have any advice of how I can talk to him to find out what he wants and what I can do to make him stop this? Has anyone been in a similar situation with any of their alters? I don't even know his name, I called him a name for a while because I didn't know what else to call him but I suspect he might be called James because sometimes I just get the feeling that James is his name, I don't know how but I just know. I'd really like to know what he wants and why he's there, and I'd really appreciate it if anyone has any advice on how I can do so when he seems to really hate me and never listens when I try to "talk" to him.