I've certainly experienced minutes where my therapist wasn't attuned to me, didn't empathize, missed the mark. In our particular case, we have had a rupture or two that took a while to heal, from a major disconnect, perhaps the healing happened over a period of days, as we discussed the issue and I saw she was willing to listen, compromise, and not be too defensive, it healed but I've still touched on them from time to time as things came up.

However, yours sounds like a chronic issue, not an isolated misstep. The things you've explained are major concerns: after the length of time you've been seeing her, if you are not able to print out your post above or discuss it with her, I am concerned at the lack of trust, and not sure it can or should be worked through. I don't think there's a way "around" it to mend it, I think you'd need to go "through" directly by being honest with her about these concerning patterns.