I was fairly new to therapy three years ago. I had a severe intimacy problem with my husband and he was ready to end our long-term marriage. I had seen a few therapists in the past, but never connected and ended the relationships quickly. Then I met my T. I was very comfortable with him, and felt I could tell him anything and learned so much from him. The fix with my husband came quickly, and our marriage has never been better. Now, I have to deal with my attachment to my therapist. It's been a rollercoaster of feelings! Initially I really liked him, then I loved him, then I read up on everything out there and got over the love thing, and now I am just attached! It's really annoying because I don't want to spend this insane amount of money. I also grapple with this whole T/Client relationship thing. It's frustrating to want to talk to T (like he's a friend), but I can't because it's outside the boundaries if we are not in session. It's not a friendship I tell myself, he's like a doctor, I would not call my OBGYN when I thought of something funny?

So, in answer to your questions, did my therapist seem uninterested in helping me with my feelings toward him? Yes, kind of. I had so many discussions typed up and ready to go when I went into his office, but could never pull them out. So, I just said what I was feeling. I did not tell him I was in love with him, just suffered through that one on my own. But, I did confront him with my attachment/dependency on him and he explained this was due to my Mother's disassociation with me when I was younger. Guess I am going after something I never got in the past. This was helpful, but I wanted to get help eradicating this extremely annoying fixation on him. This is where he was not helpful! He would not go into full detail. I often wonder, is it because this is part of my therapy (torture if you ask me) or is it because I am a good paying client?