Hi MMD...Does it make a difference really what type of abuse it is. Ok so he is not calling you names. Big deal. I think you need to ask yourself why you want to be in a relationship with anyone who hits, slaps, throws you around in any way, a little bit or a lot. Maybe others think the world of him because he does not lay his hands on them.
Its confusing and sad to me that you do not seem to be upset about yourself just that you dont want to label this man incorrectly. No one deserves this type of treatment!!!
If you are in therapy or can seek counseling that may be very helpful. I hope you will realize you deserve better!