As you get older, your best bet is to find a woman who's done with the games and nonsense. As long as they are still looking for the "hottie", and if you don't fit that description, it's a no-go. Being nice, funny, all that means nothing. Women make their decision in, what is it, 5 seconds? That means they're as shallow as men and make their decision based on appearances, just like men. They have just as unrealistic expectations as men.

My wife is an example. I couldn't buy a date until I met her. (Literally!) She had the token boyfriends; the powerlifting champion, the college quarterback, etc. She picked me because I was stable and could support myself. It wasn't my personality or my looks, it was that I didn't carry the instability that the "hotties" did and she was done with that.

That's your best bet, finding a woman that's done with the nonsense.