yellowfrog,

I can understand that you are worried about how your daughter will handle her ADHD without you but you can't force her too. At the end of the day if you push too much she'll never really want to do them at all. Plus, you are more focused on her ADHD and not the anxiety. If you are too forceful it could make her anxiety worse.

She isn't you, her lack of motivation is a lot because of the ADHD. I know with my ADD that I feel like I'm a highly DRIVEN person but lack the motivation and energy to see things through. I have to push through things much harder than most. This is were I'm beginning to question if I'm on the right medication for my ADD or not.

She may never be as motivated as you would like or as you. Just remember nobody is ever really the same.