Byron Katie wrote about the main reason people are unhappy is that they don't like their reality and they try to hard to change it. I won't deny that there is some truth to that.

The thing is that people with my reality simply won't succeed in life. I'm too dumb and lazy, and I'm constantly saying and doing the wrong things and alienating other people. Those "be yourself" adages seem to favor people who are naturally smart and goodhearted and talented. Of course they can accept their reality when their reality is wonderful and promising. Mine isn't.

I think that my true self is someone who is destined to fail and inflict misery on everyone around her. I don't want to be that person. I want to change myself so I can be like one of the worthy people.

My reality has to change. I can't afford to just lie back and accept that I'm destined to live in squalor and misery. I don't want to accept that I don't deserve a good career or friends. I have to do something to save my life, and I don't know what to do. All I know is if I don't change, I will hate the consequences.