Often when we fall "in love" with another person what we also tend to do is fall in love with the idea of this other person too. Without realizing it we begin to think of this person as being "more" than they really are. We tend to fall in love with "love" too. The reason for this is because when we "think" we are in love we experience chemicals that can even blind us from seeing a reality that we should really be seeing. Well, this is something that is very real, hence the saying "Love is blind".

I remember being so heartbroken when I was younger and broke up with a guy that I was in love with loving, even though he didn't really treat me right. I had to mourn him, oh yes, that always has to take place, after all no more love chemicals going on, going on not because we are "really in love for the right reasons either". I can tell you that as the years have passed and I have moved on with my life, I can say for certain, it would have not turned out well if I did stay with that person. Actually, he eventually married someone else, he never really changed and divorced with two children.

I am very sorry that you are still "grieving" but I "can" tell you that with time and giving yourself love and something else to be "involved with" which could be learning something new as I don't know how old you are, this opining will let go. And part of you is looking for the chemicals that come with "thinking you are in love and loving the being in love" that happens, and remember can happen with a person who may be very wrong for you. If this person is "content" without you?, Then it was not "true or real love" and you "do" deserve better than that. Do not even allow yourself to entertain what you could do or be to have that outcome be different either. Real "love" is when someone loves you for what and who you really are.

(((Hugs)))
OE