Although I'm incredibly lonely and a bit starved for friendship, I guess you could call me a flake. I respond to texts/phone calls immediately, but it takes me weeks to respond to online messages (if I reply at all). I drop off the radar for weeks at a time. I avoid certain social interactions after indicating interest in them. A doctor has told me this is a result of an avoidance or anxiety disorder but the fact is that this habit has caused many online friendships and relationships to fizzle out and I'm perfectly aware it's all on me. I feel terrible and guilty and selfish but apparently not enough to prevent myself from doing it all over again.
I know I can't come on here and ask for a quick fixit solution--to be brutally honest I would read the advice and take comfort in it and then I would do nothing with it. But right now I'm curious: if you've been a 'flakee' at some point, is there something you wish the 'flaker' had said or done? Did you confront the person who blew you off too many times? If you tend to flake out on others, do you beat yourself up about it and try again next time?