I have been raped in the past by a boy friend, raped many times by that same guy. I have a history of child sexual abuse as well.

I can't do the intimacy thing. I don't like holding hands, kissing, cuddling, just the normal touchy feely married people stuff, that doesn't involve the bed room is kinda out of the question. When it comes to the bedroom stuff, OMG, I have do desire, no need, sex is dull and is more of a thing you do cause men have to have it.

I am in T. My H and I are in T together. We have been married for 19 years. Please address this before you get to serious. Invite him to come to T with you. He needs to understand and you need to address these issues with and with out him. You need to address them for you, and then you need to address then for yall.

I guess it affects folks differently. It causes issues for me but not for others. I wish you the best of luck.