I hope you feel better. Ranting does help sometimes. Good questions all. I was simply encouraging you to follow through with your idea but not weigh it down with a bunch of emotion. It is generally not the best way to start out. That comes later, after a certain amount of trust is gained. Personal information is not general information. Opening a floodgate of personal stuff is not the way to be open, honest & genuine. It is however more likely to scare someone off if they are considering what you bring to the table & you lead with all your history/problems. TMI is just that. They probably want to get to know other things about you first, just as you would likely not want to know all the dirt about someone as a way to "get close". You are looking for the good in someone right? Those shared interests, common goals. I think everyone wants to get to know our best selves first, just as we want to get to know theirs. That is not a bad thing.
Being attractive does help, as you know, but it is not everything.
And to your question, yes, it goes both ways, don't you think? If someone/anyone is interested in pursuing another, they will. Sure, people can be shy, or whatever, but if they are truly interested in being with someone, they will figure out a way to do that. I believe this is basic human nature. That's all.
You are interested in this guy, I think he may know that, based on the number of texts & attempts by you. It all sounds pretty healthy. But again, try not to lay too much out there at the beginning. It is not being dishonest, it is putting your best foot forward, as they say.

I hope he will respond favorably and clearly to you. No one likes to have to second guess what is going on.