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Originally Posted by Freewilled
My T is very open to discussing transference.....I find it very difficult. But I have all kinds of conflicting feelings going on regarding my T. I have found it easier to talk about my anger than the attachment, although still very difficult to be so angry at my T. He strongly encourages me to talk about it but I find it incredibly embarrassing, and sometimes I worry that I will misplace my trust in him and then he will pull the rug out from under me.
I think transference is very very challenging to resolve and I'm hoping and praying it doesn't go on too much longer. I try my best to bring it into the therapy room to talk about it and work through it. I'm just hoping it isn't there still when it comes time for me to leave.....
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Hello Freewilled-
I can empathize with you-I know it was so hard for me to talk about my feelings. And I really know what you mean about misplacing your trust. I have experienced misplaced trust many times-in and out of therapy-and every time it happens it takes another part of me. You're right-transference is very, very challenging -and painful and confusing. I hope that you're therapist continues to earn your trust. I wish you well.
Hello amee200-
Thank you-your response
is helpful and I appreciate it. I believe that it if you don't think the feelings are disabling or so painful that they are interfering with the therapy or with your life it's probably not something you need to spend much time on discussing with the therapist-unless you want to. I think that is a good gauge to go by. For me, it did take over my life and it was a huge part of the therapy-particularly when there were mutual feelings being discussed between us. It became painfully confusing-what was the therapy or from the therapist, what was the personal feelings from the man sitting across from me? I think that feeling a closeness and an attachment to a therapist is a natural result considering the topics of conversation and the intimacy involved. But when the feelings become too painful and too intrusive, the reasons why we sought help to begin with can end up taking a back seat-or get buried completely. I wish you all the best.