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Unfiltered. That is what people call it. Just opening your mouth and responding immediately with what you feel or how you see it with no thought. I was unfiltered and aggressive instead of thoughtful and assertive. This is what I worked on with T. You have to step away from your feelings first and do not respond immediately. Damn T.......I immediately think in my head would my response make T proud?
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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