When I developed feelings for my therapist it was one of the most painful and confusing experiences of my life. I had never experienced feelings that were so painful and intense and it scared me to death. I confided in my therapist and acknowledged that I had what felt like romantic feelings for him but he didn't see it as an issue to resolve. I researched the subject of romantic feelings/transference within a therapy relationship on my own to find answers as to what was happening to me. I wondered, what do you do if the feelings don't dissipate over time and what if the therapist seems uninterested in resolving or ending the feelings/transference? What if the therapist also experiences feelings toward the client?

My questions to anyone who wants to respond to this are-

Was your therapist informative and/or helpful (in that they seem open to an honest and open discussion) if you experienced feelings toward him/her-whether the feelings were positive, negative, romantic, happy, sad, angry-whatever the feelings?

Were you able to ever resolve/work through these feelings with the same therapist to the point that you felt the feelings were not interfering with your healing process and not causing you to feel pain or anxiety or confusion?

The answer to these questions for me is no, it has been a horrible process for many reasons. But I wondered if other people feel that they have had a successful resolution with the same therapist or that things ended in a neutral or better place than from where things were in the beginning. Thank you for reading.