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Originally Posted by archipelago
I just went over this distinction in a Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction class. We learned that most of us get used to just reacting, which tends to be unconscious or automatic and can produce stress. Whereas responding is more measured and thoughtful, using the power of an observer position that can see the larger picture and can take a breath before "reacting." We learned that not only do we do this with things and others, but we also carry it on inside ourselves, reacting to thoughts and feelings, instead of responding. That made a lot of people in the class really change the way they were and improve their lives tremendously. It's an important distinction. Hard to describe though. But you know it when you see it or do it.
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I think the difference between reacting and responding is very important and a great idea for therapy, or to think about and learn more about in any way.
Putting into action a way of responding rather than reacting, takes practice and involves sitting with the emotions until they lessen in intensity. It also involves a gift to yourself, of giving yourself space and time around your thoughts before deciding to act on the first thought that arises.
It's also a great learning tool, studying this, because it helps point to what kinds of things create specific emotional responses and why.
Your world can be opened up by just deciding that a reaction isn't needed, that a person can say, hmmmm I will have to think about that and get back to you. And then take the time you need until you feel comfortable with your response.
I'm happy for you that you discovered this wonderful idea to think about!