mmd~ I agree with all the other posters & may I add that he appears to have broken your spirit & he will continue to do this as long you are with him. I only see this getting worse for you. No one should Ever touch you this way. Especially your H.
If someone fills you with so many questions & doubt about yourself, they are abusive. My own H never lays a hand on me & actually uses That as proof that he is not doing harm. But harm he does ~with his words. Of course no one else sees this, our H's save this behavior for our eyes/ears/hearts only. Yes it is control, & it keeps us off balance.
I hope you can find some counselling there, and get a chance to go home for visits on a more frequent basis. Being away from him will give you a chance to clear your head. Many hugs to you...