It's intrinsic to our human nature to want to socialize, but in the Western culture it seems to be all about self-promotion and superiority - gamesmanship. I don't socialize for those reasons, and I certainly feel lonely, too. Instead I focus on personal growth whether it be intellectual or physical health. I stopped trying to find a significant other, and I don't want someone just for the sake of having someone to talk to. If and when she comes, that's great, but I'm not holding my breath. Take care of yourself, and let life unfold. There is a high probability that someone worthwhile will recognize your aura, in time.