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Originally Posted by hankster
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Omg. You dont have to wait until that old lady is dead to stop putting up with her abuse. I want to tell her to just shut up. Thats how my mother would talk to me. "Oh im worried about your being heavy, i have a right." Yeah you have the right to STFU. Cant you drive her home or leave when she starts talking like that? Boundaries, girl. This was why one of the hardest units in DBT group was when we went around the room and just said "no".  |
Lol, i don't even spend xmas with her anymore, that is MY boundary!
< proud face
This was all over the phone. And yes it was wrapped in care, all said in the nicest (if a little slurred) way. But she says it all the time. My husband adores me, he's not going to leave me yet she continues to judge him by her many mens' shabby standards, not all men are like her poor choices. She claims to be proud of me but even when i was standing in wedding dresses she'd commented on my weight, how i used to have a lovely figure. I've put on weight since being virtually housebound and very ill with an immune disease. Yet, she says she finds it hard to understand , i think she just doesn't believe me or thinks i could try harder...
I'm trying so hard to have boundaries but when she gets started i'm so shocked and angry at what she's saying i just freeze or snap at her. Ugh parents suck.