Im with squirrel. Ive never had a man be mean to me, but some women obgyns have been pretty horrible. Some have been good. The last woman obgyn i had, tried to use this little plastic frog clicker speculum and the darn thing kept biting me! She was a tiny little thing. I, otoh, AM NOT! Im amazed that women share these with their moms. My mother kept hers completely private from me.