I don't see not telling your dh about the Paxil as the horrible thing you are making it out to be. I hope this doesn't mean I'm unethical or amoral.

Don't get me wrong; I think disclosure is a good thing in general, and up to a point. I don't think anyone would feel that openness had been violated if, for example, a bride didn't disclose to the groom that she took an allergy pill. In fact, about the only thing medication I think one would have a moral obligation to disclose would be treatment for an STD -- and that's not because of a moral imperative to disclose the medication but rather to disclose the STD.

I agree with the reply that people here are not likely to judge, lest we be judged. How are things going?