I think there is no going back; there is only going forward. You and i are kind of in the same spots with our ts - deep attachment, but our actual lives are getting worse, not better. Sometimes people just have bad luck, and there is nothing anyone can do about it. You face it, you do get support from t etc, and you work your way out of it, but it must be along a different path. Maybe she feels she cant support you on the old path? I know i am causing a rupture with my t - i feel like things are getting worse; but by taking some action, i am getting the space i need to change things.