I really don't know what to say here.. i understand how you feel and I also understand your husband. You say people drain you and you can only handle them in small amounts, so you go home and you recover which absolutely fine but now your routine is broken, have you tried sychotherapy? You say you feel dizzy and your hands start shaking .. Maybe it is not a bad idea to look for reasons why is it this way. I'm sure you talked to your husband many times but if the way you feel is the most important for him then he will make it clear for your brother in law that it is not ok to be coming over too often and he should respect it even if he doesn't get it.

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