I agree with the above post. I can relate to how you feel about your home being your safe place. I feel the same way about my home. It is the only place in this world where I can hide from the world and relax. So I totally get how you're feeling. I wonder if it would be possible for you to sit down with your brother-in-law and explain how you feel? Do you think this could be an option? Maybe if he hears it directly from you instead of your husband then he'll understand better? What do you think?