Thanks all. Things just took a different direction than I expected. My brother in law and husband came home from skiing and even though I asked my brother in law to be very quiet he successfully woke up my sleeping toddler. So after I expressed my frustration, he left frustrated.

Though it is very upsetting to be in this position, I do think it is a necessary step to help him understand me a little more. I know he doesn't like me, and I can accept that. I know I am different and have reached the age I will not apologize for who I am. I am willing to compromise but not willing to feel miserable in my own home.

I hope we can find a middle medium but at least for today I have my house back and can try and decompress. And hopefully my husband isn't too hurt of these events.