She moved out in September. She's doing individual counselling about her issues but refused me marriage counselling outright. That was f ing hard to swallow. 14 years, I raised her 2 kids like my own, still have a great relationship with them (stepson lives with me full time and stepdaughter is with me for the holidays), she had some really bad medical stuff she's still dealing with and really? Not even a token session?

She swears left and right she just needs space and wants to be alone for a while, can't handle being a wife or mother right now. I chose to respect that space. Right now I'm rebuilding my life, being there for the kids and fixing my financial situation.

As per therapist's advice, trying to detach. I'll make decisions in god time when I'm ready.