Hi,

I could have wrote your first post.

Sociopaths do not change. They can't. Keep that on mind as you struggle with trying to keep your sanity. And try as hard as you can not to blame yourself. Their unhappiness and problems with control are their problems, not yours. All you can do is try to change your reactions to him. God, it is hard.

I had to leave my 20 year marriage to a sociopath. I lost my home, my community, and my teenage sons won't speak to me. They blame me. And he is the one who spun tales and lies that caused such wreckage of our lives.

Yet, I am ok. Every single day that I get up I can breathe a sigh of relief. I am not afraid anymore. I don't have to feel crazy anymore. I can hope and dream again. I feel intense pain and grief over my children, but I can try every day with them. I pray they will see some clarity in the future. I can hope.

Take care of you. Do what you need to do for yourself.

Don't let the bastard walk all over you, be strong.

Good luck..