Hey Anony, I think you're being too hard on yourself... I think it is possible for many people to change for the better.... to be more healthy, fulfillled, functional etc. without therapy (or without years of therapy) although it would usually be a lot slower.... although some therapists do make matters worse they are in the minority. I respect your decision, and if you ever change your mind, we will be here for you....

Take care,
Fuzzy