Well good that you did keep them under wraps. I'm sorry she wasn't good to you but all the more reason you should have already sent her packin I understand though, i've been there with that.

The way that it was originally posted, it sounded as though you already were entertaining the idea before you'd let the other one go and in that case it would be a dangerous thing to mess with that idea even in your head... but I understand. I was married and I was attracted to another female. I didn't pursue or flirt with her but I got it out in the open at the time and let the girl know that I felt that way and felt bad for being attracted and also let my wife at the time know this to get it out in the open and let her know nothing ever happened or would but that I was tempted. It was one of the best decisions I ever made in my marriage... although she ended up actually cheating on me and subsequently leaving, that's a whole different story I won't get into