That is not what I meant. If you think you have a need and the therapist has no problem with the contact, then I would do it. I don't usually consider the therapist helpful with anything I consider a need. I don't usually think of contact with the therapist as being calming, reassuring etc. So I cannot imagine why I would do so - if one thinks of the therapist as useful in those ways, then I would say contact away. I don't think of it as having anything to do with being too needy.