I am so livid and feel hurt since last night, I can't stand it. I don't know if I can even compose an adequate post, but I need to expel my thoughts somehow. Let me start by saying that within the past year or so, my b/f has ALWAYS said he would NEVER work a third shift position unless they placed him on it at work and he had no say. Many, many times we talked about how hard it would be for us individually and as a couple. I full well let him know I absolutely do not like the idea at all. Often he would tell me that so-and so-went to third shift and hates it, etc. I have been so afraid it could happen because they can pretty much put anybody where they want to at any given time. I have felt safe and somewhat comfortable with my b/f being on second shift; he gave me that honest reassurance, he wouldn't post out and end up on third (he didn't want to). A couple months back, he told me there were going to be new postings coming up. I didn't say much as he said that if he signed up for them there would be the possibility of going to any shift. He came home one night and said there were new postings and he was thinking of signing up. I simply let him know I wasn't comfortable with it. But gain, I didn't say much, trying to let him make his own choice based on everything we talked about. A couple of days later, he said he signed ... my heart sunk. I was not too happy at all and said a few not so nice things. Last night it all came up and he let me know there's only a 90% chance of third shift. It all started all over again. I was so pissed off . . . for him to put me/us in this position after everything he always said. I feel betrayed, lied to (though he doesn't look at it as though he lied) My attitude is so bad toward him, not nasty thus far, but I am so bitter and resentful. I reminded him that everything is difficult for us now, and I am struggling and now he wants to take my/our whole world and turn it upside down?!?! He is having some health problems, doesn't sleep well as it is . . . I don't want to sleep alone being in a relationship and have to live a subdued lifstyle during the day so he can frickin' TRY to sleep. I think the bigger part of it was he knew how I felt (we both agreed) and he didn't seem to think it over much, nor did he talk with me about it really. What I wanted is what I think of respect being . . . and maybe asking me about what I thought of him giving it a try. Under 'normal' circumstances I would think that's how it would be, but maybe I'm overreacting and as clueless as I always feel about how I should feel. Honestly I don't think so. All I know is that I feel like a g/f who got left out in the cold with a major change and that doesn't make me feel like a partner. Any thoughts . . . am I wrong?!