I'm 18, lost my virginity less than a year ago, and since then, have had sexual intercourse with 8 men, ranging in age from 18 to 25. I'm starting to feel bad about this. This week I had a 24 hour period where I slept with three different guys. (One early in the day, around 1am, one around 6pm and another one around 10pm) I feel like my behavior is getting out of hand. I feel like I remember reading somewhere that if someone had 5 or 6 partners in a calendar year that it would be considered promiscuous. I feel like by generally accepted moral standards that my behavior isn't okay. Sex just doesn't mean much to me. I don't really feel emotionally attached to most of these guys, and sometimes I feel like I just have to have sex to make the guy happy. Like once I had a guy friend help me when my car broke down, and he came on to me and I just felt like I owed him something. Overall I wouldn't say I'm very happy with my life, but I don't think I have sex because I think it will make me happy or because the guys will care about me -- I know they won't.. I don't really know why I do it. I almost never meet guys that don't just see me as a sexual object, and when I meet a nice guy, I think it's kind of weird. I think I might start seeing a therapist when I get back to college for spring semester but I'm not sure if I should talk about this with them? Is it really a problem? On the intake survey for counseling at my school, there is a checkbox for if I have a "sexual problem" would this be considered one?
I was sexually abused by a family member from ages 11-16, but I hate to be the person that blames everything on my sex abuse. I'm just starting to feel kind of guilty about my behavior, but I'm not sure if I can just stop...? I suppose to some extent it's really nice to be wanted, but at the same time, I hate feeling objectified.
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