Alcoholism is a very serious disease. She can over come it but she'll never be able to touch another drop of any kind of alcohol again. Also she has to want to change her life. I think you seeking therapy is great and also going to meetings for family who have an alcoholic is very helpful too. You should also pick up an A.A. book. You will find very helpful information in there to help you understand your wife. Remember for better or for worse. At least try everything you can before you give up on her. I wish you the best