I believe that everyone does this to some degree, but I think we are much, much more susceptible to it than most and I wanted your thoughts. It is what Pema Chodron calls Shenpa.

Do you ever have an automatic, strong reaction to someone's voice, expressions, body language that is instant, affects your voice or your face, and is very negative: anger, annoyance, etc, but before you're even fully aware it exists, it's gone?

I think this has become a matter of contention (yet another one) between myself and my husband. I do this all the time, he picks up on it, and then he thinks that's how I feel for forever way after the feeling passes....