It seems as thought the only thing that is more difficult than muddling through a relationship is... muddling through a relationship with an anxiety disorder (or fill in the blank with your own illness). I just feel so lost and confused far too often. I think about my relationship with my husband about as much as I think about all of my other relationships and pretty much everything else- A LOT!

Can anyone tell me: how do we determine if we are just anxious individuals and this seaps into many aspects of our lives, especially relationships? OR if we are anxious because of bad relationships?

I really don' t like to think about my relationship as a bad one and I truly love my husband. But I am always worrying about the future- how we will be as parents, will we have enough money, what sorts of careers will we have long-term, what would we do if x,y, or z happened? These sorts of things. When I continuously bring these things up to my husband, he gets frustrated that these things are all we ever talk about anymore and he is sad that these are the only things I think about.

So I guess I'm asking for advice- do you think that if I had a husband who was more career-driven, a better care-taker, etc. that these worries would even go away? I have never been interested in money=success or a career defining oneself. I often times think that even if I had the "perfect caretaking husband" who made lots of money and was extremely affectionate and appreciative, I would STILL worry. I guess I'm just looking for someone to respond who maybe can relate or to verify that even with a great relationship, we can still feel this crappy and scared about the future??!!!

Help!!!