Thank You Thank You Thank You for your kind words and advice...I'm reading this great book called "When You and Your Mother Can't be Friends" and it helps calm my anxiety. I just wish my mother would write back, and maybe some healing can happen, conversations like JustAPixie suggested...mother's 80th b-day is in April, thinking if I haven't heard from her I'd send and card and try to re-open some contact..don't know...

Thanks again