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Hoppery · 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Elektra_

here is the thing. i had other T there. she was sweet, i could call whenever i needed and i really liked her. after 2 months they dismissed her. i think my actually T must have almost ALL patients now (which isnt good either). as i knew my actual T from a CV course i was doing at same time, they put me with her. i told my ex-T it wouldnt be a good idea caz i didnt like her (she knew some situations i told her). she told me to try and then if i didnt want it to send an email to change T. i tried for few and in 1st sessions she pissed me off, i came out of there even worse than i came in so when i got home i sent her an email saying i wanted to change.
she told me to go there. she said some BS and i said ok ill continue then. thing is she made this statement: u can continue the course but we cant give u another T. my reaction was WTF???? its been more than 6 months and to be honest im quite sick of her make me feel like im an idiot and criticize everything i say. she knows it bu as shes perfect she wont ****ing change a thing or even be COMPETENT enough to ask me whats bothering me or maybe look AT HERSELF. so yeah shes perfect and im the one that had many ts caz im too ****ed up (SHE HAD THE NERVES OF SAYING THIS EVEN AFTER I SAY ONE PER ONE THE REASONS I HAD TO QUIT).

Right, I hear your pain. You have three options that I can see and its totally up to you, all your choice!

1) Write her a letter telling her how you feel in a respectful way, write from the heart. Then give her that letter. Emotions sometimes can come out in the wrong way, on both her side and yours. I find that letters can be took mostly, in a good way where as if you say something, or she says something it can come out in the wrong way. I know you probably don't want to try this but I think it's worth at least a go.

2) You can continue on the rocky road and see where it takes you.

3) You can quit seeing your t and forget about therapy or keep on trying to get a new one, by keep on explaining your situation and how you feel, that she cannot connect with you.

EDIT: I've had a bit of a think about your situation. If you choose to write a letter and give it to her, and find that it doesn't work. Perhaps, you could take a look at writing what your problems are with her down and her problems with you. Then swap them. I do think you should at least give it ago because what we have to work with here is limited. If that doesn't work, another thing I can think of is if you haven't already, ask your t can you both work on building your relationships up before you work on the stuff that you need to work on.

If the suggestions above fail, you could try this:
I think what you need to work on your relationship with your t is for her to accept that you use curse words to express yourself. And that you both must be willing to forgive one another and put the past behind you, to try to start the relationship again. But before you do this, perhaps do a sort of 'closure' session about the old relationship you shared and what the problems were and what you could both work on in not letting it happen again. Although, both of you need to be respectful to one another when doing this so it doesn't turn offensive.

NOTE: I am always here if you want to vent out your frustrations in private message. I never take what people say to me heart and nor does it effect me. But I am a good listener and I don't judge. Hope what I say helps, and if it doesn't. I will see if I can think of any other ways to help you in your situation. Keep on keeping on