I do not feel that it's too much to ask for your personal needs to be met. I feel that danv may be onto something here, about intimacy. However, I am brainstorming, how to best bring up such a topic. It involves expressing what needs are lacking. Asking for 'selfless caring' or even 'emotional intimacy', may indeed be too far reaching of terms.

Can you be more specific about what you want/need when you express the desire to have selfless caring? ((random acts of kindness comes to mind, at the moment))