I imagine that quite a few therapists are more likely to be less patient and attentive at times in their real life because they spend so much of their working day that way. My therapist mentioned something to me that she will not tolerate in her real life and she noted the fact that she was not in therapist mode so didn't have to tolerate it. Clearly she knows how to put the needs of others first in her work, but it doesn't mean that she goes about her whole life in that way.