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Originally Posted by Hoppery
Yeah. I just don't know how the relationship with a therapist would go. I have troubles with normal relationships! Let alone with this kind of relationship. I guess if my mental health nurse specialist felt that it would be best for me to get a therapist then I would say okay. But please tell the therapist to not abandon me or get angry or give up on me because I find it hard to trust people, and by hard I mean, like it'd take me a year or more just to open up. An the therapist would probably think their time was wasted.
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My experience with my current T has been that I have had a terribly difficult time trusting him, despite feeling very strongly that he is trustworthy. After a year and a half I am still not open about everything, and he knows that. He still does not think that I have been wasting his time, ever. (I've asked him about that.) Thing is, I have been waiting for this big complete change in myself where I suddenly am able to talk about anything and everything, while in reality it has been a very gradual process, with numerous small victories. One of my T's strongest beliefs is that every step forward is a hundred percent in itself; it does not have to be measured against any other progress, real or imagined.
I just wanted to put this here so you see that it's not necessarily the case that the T would feel that you ought to trust them completely at once. Many Ts don't feel that, I'm sure, because when you think about it, many of us go to therapy to get help with trust issues, and it would be strange and unnnatural for us to suddenly trust a new person completely at once.