It's so sad that your mom chooses to change the subject whenever it comes up instead of confronting your brother about it and standing up for you.

That only serves to further wound you because it's invalidating you and your experience.

In the meantime, Jordy, take as good care of yourself as you can ...

I agree with the other posters. Your friends have let you know that they are an ally and are offering you validation, support & a safe place to stay. Take them up on that.

I had good friends do this for me and I lived with them for two months until I could get a place of my own. It truly was a wonderful act of kindness and I'm most thankful for it to this very day.

Perhaps you could start going over to your friend's home the night before your brother is supposed to visit and not return to your mother's home until the day after he is gone?

That won't be such an overwhelming start and you can expand from there ...

There's no need to explain why to your mother or brother ... They already know who and what they are ... Your actions will speak louder than any words you could ever say to them!

I wish you good healing ...