We never know what is going to come of telling another; even when you think it may help or a certain particular person will be accepting and vise versa. I think others at times do need to know, primarily people closer to us ~ I think they have a right to know as it does effect our relationships and can create some understanding. For myself, I don't want anybody to know and this is tough for me to do, especially with my b/f's friends who are great people. I need to take my own suggestion though and muster up the courage and try not to feel as though it's embarrassing to my boyfriend to have a girlfriend who is BPD. He suggested it though and I agree, it's just a matter of doing so. I guess as long as the whole world doesn't know . . . though it feels like it anyway.